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Chapter Seven: Pricing the Priceless

In the first part of the Pay Me What I’m Worth journey, we prepared ourselves to receive, exploring the concept of worth and how to uncover it within our own lives. In the last post of this series, be began the second part of the book, which is about preparing to give, and explored the phrase “you get what you pay for.”

Today we explore value by digging into the concepts of pricelessness and payment. There are a lot of golden nuggets to react to in this chapter and its no-cost overview audio found at bitly.com/payspence. What I’d like to focus on for this post is the idea that nothing is priceless and that we pay for everything.

What do I mean by this?

Everything you receive, even if it was “free,” you paid for in some way: You paid for it physically, emotionally or spiritually. Let me give you some examples of what I mean.

Physical payments

• I go to the grocery store and I exchange money for groceries.
• I help a friend move and receive a few slices of pizza.
• I donate my time to a charity to receive the good feelings of helping a cause I believe in.

These are all physical, quantifiable payments I’ve made in real-time.

By physical payments aren’t the only way we pay for things.

Emotional payments

• I take a larger than my share of the evening meal … and I feel guilty.
• I hold my tongue to avoid a fight … and feel angry.
• I accept a gift from a less than trustworthy friend … and feel that I have to put up with their crappy way of treating me.

Emotional costs can seem small at the moment, but they can lead to terrible physical costs later, including ulcers, heart attacks, and –heaven forbid — thinning, greying hair!

Spiritual costs
At one point in the audio, Soul mentions that when a dream dies, so does the dreamer. And he goes on to suggest that all those who would have benefited from the fruition of that dream also pay.

There was a time that I was truly passionate about my fiction writing. But I let my now ex-husband not only dissuade me from spending time in this avocation but drain the dream to the point that I barely write fiction anymore. My dream is currently in a coma. I paid for not defending my creative expression, but how may people who would have been delighted and entertained by my stories and turns of phrase have also paid? I’ll never know.

Again, I state that we pay for everything we receive. Sometimes it is a joyful payment and the paying of it is blissful and a gift in and of itself. Other times it is a truly bitter payment with long-lasting repercussions.

So I ask you this: Is there anything — anything at all — that is truly without price?

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Coming up in future installments of this journey:

• October 9 – Chapter 8: Performance Based Contracts
• October 23 – Chapter 9: Ethics & Integrity
• October 30 – Chapter 10: Gratitude Guidelines

Explore Your Worth and Become the Master of Your Life

I’m now accepting applications for the next Pay Me What I’m Worth group, which is 12 payments of $149, paid monthly. Learn more and register today at bitly.com/payspence! Together with author of Pay Me What I’m Worth Soul Dancer, we’ll take a 12-month dive into owning your worth and increasing your confidence.

Remember, not everyone will be accepted into the course. You must schedule an exploratory session with me first to determine if you are a good fit for this group at this time.

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Are you are wondering what this 12-month class can do for you? Listen to what previous students have had to say about Soul’s Pay Me What I’m Worth Master Class.

Anna Banguilan on Performance-Based Contracts (1:50):

Elaine O’Malley on increased confidence in her business (0:43):

Stuart Young on uncovering more confidence than he thought possible (1:59):

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