Power Thought: 5 reasons why we may not own own awesome

by | Sep 18, 2013 | Authenticity, Mindset, Self Discovey

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From left to right:
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Bernard M. Baruch,
Judy Garland and Lady Gaga

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
~ Bernard M. Baruch

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.”
~ Judy Garland

“Don’t you ever let a soul in the world tell you that you can’t be exactly who you are.”
~ Lady Gaga

What these quotes mean to business:
So many quotable people have talked about the importance of being yourself. And, after reading a friend of mine’s post in a private Facebook group listing the 20 reasons miracles don’t happen for us, I was inspired to write this post. Here are five reasons that people … like you or me … use to cloak their awesome and not let their true brilliance shine.

1. Embarrassment
At some point in our lives, more than likely when we were very young, someone made fun of us. They probably did it while we were expressing our uniqueness. Because of this experience, we got the impression that being ourselves is not really O.K. or acceptable.

The thing is, as children, we want to fit in. Therefore, we will often make fun of others who aren’t like us. Or we will be made fun of because we aren’t like others. It is just the way it is.

But that was then, and this is now. You are an adult and you don’t need to be hanging around folks who don’t love your unique awesomeness. And, you will never find those people who appreciate the real you unless you express the real you.

2. Fear of hurting others
For some reason, many of us fear that by shining our own light, we somehow dim the light of others. This simply isn’t true. In fact, if anything, by dimming our light we just encourage others to dim theirs, as well.

Role models, people we look up to and want to emulate, are usually people who are unabashedly shining their light. Leaders own their awesome. Visionaries own their awesome. Role models own their awesome. There is no way you can hurt someone by being the beacon you were meant to be.

3. Fear of being seen
Our culture extols the virtues of modesty. The thing is, though, that modesty is often interpreted as not owning our awesome. It is as if by being who we are, giving our unique gifts and offering our distinct genius to the world, we are somehow being boastful or bragging.

The definition of “brag,” according to Merriam-Webster is this:

  1. a pompous or boastful statement
  2. arrogant talk or manner: cockiness
  3. braggart

None of those definitions mean being who we are. None of those definitions mean that we are stepping into our power. As long as you are being genuine and not pompous or arrogant, you’ll be just fine. Be yourself.

4. Fear of not fitting in
Many times we dim our light because we want to fit it, we don’t want to stand out. Sometimes we feel embarrassed by who we are. Sometimes we believe that who we are won’t be accepted by others.

However, who you are is who you were meant to be. Only you can be you … that’s why you exist. Yes, some people will not accept you. But they aren’t your peeps. Again, the only way you can attract people who love, honor and respect your unique gifts is to express them to the fullest you can.

5. Misinformation
Sometimes we’ve been given information that doesn’t apply to us. This information made us feel that we should not be the way we are. It made us feel that we are somehow wrong, mistaken or flawed.

Other times, we’ve been given information that blocks us from owning our awesome in other ways. For example, we try to follow one guru’s marketing process and fail miserably. It may not be that the marketing process is wrong nor that you are incompetent. It may just be that the marketing process is not a good match to who you are.

Did you recognize yourself or your reasons in this list? Take a look at the facets of your life where you aren’t being your best self and uncover why. If any of these reasons apply, you can work on letting that block go and start shining your brilliance in all areas of your life.

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Now its your turn:
What are your reasons for not owning your awesome (now or in the past)? Did I miss any? How have you overcome your reasons and stepped into your power? Please share your story, advice and wisdom in a comment below.


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