Fear is a natural emotional response that protects us from harm. However, it can also become a hinderance to our success by paralyzing us from taking action when needed. Therefore it is wise to have a few “overcoming fear” tools in your tool box.
In this post, I’m going to share a way you can, at least begin to, overcome fear by analyzing it.
First up, uncover what it is — exactly — that you are afraid of. Often times, when we experience fear, we are really experiencing layers of fear. For example, a fear of public speaking may actually be a fear of not being good enough, or a fear of appearing foolish. So, when you feel a fear, ask yourself what are you afraid of? And then dig deeper: What are you afraid of really?
Now that you know what you are afraid of, analyze why it is so scary. If you are afraid of not being good enough, figure out why that’s so bad. For example, if you give a speech and you fail, is that really so bad? Can’t you learn something from it so the next time you’ll be better?
And who says you’re not good enough just because you make a mistake? Isn’t that a bit harsh? Is a baby not good enough because it falls a few times while learning to walk? Is a child not good enough because he or she falls off the bicycle while learning to ride one?
We all learn through trial and error. Look at that baby learning to walk, again. It takes a step, falls down, gets up and tries again. Eventually it learns how to walk without falling (at least most of the time. I still trip and stumble once in awhile and I’ve been walking for a l-o-n-g time!)
I’ve written about this idea before. Here are links to more article on how to look at failure in a different way:
- Vulnerability is crucial to courage
- Not trying dooms you to failure
- Failure is just an unexpected outcome
- Find inspiration in failure
- Is That Really a Failure?
- Beating perfectionism (podcast)
- Perfectionism hurts
- Stop Bullying Yourself! (podcast)
- Learning how not to do something is better than not learning at all
More often than not, the core of most fears in life and business in the modern world are fears of failure. When you can look at getting things wrong as a lesson on how to do them better, your fear will be much more manageable.
What’s Up for Own Your Awesome Fridays this Month
October is one of my favorite months because it culminates with Halloween! Therefore, for the five Friday’s in October, I will be sharing information about overcoming fear.
- October 2: Overcoming fear through analysis ⇐ This Week
- October 9: Overcoming fear through bold action
- October 16: Redefining fear
- October 23: Making friends with fear
- October 30: Physical techniques for handling fear
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