I finally went to see Avengers: Endgame this weekend. It was a powerful movie that tied up the emotional awfulness that was Avengers: Infinity War. It was not only powerful because of the emotional resonance of the story and how it honored characters I’ve been going to the movies to see for more than 10 years, but in the wisdom it imparts, as well.
There are plenty of lessons about resilience, courage, stick-to-it-iveness and more in this film. However, the lesson I want to focus on today comes from something that Frigga, Thor’s mother says:
“Everyone fails at who they’re supposed to be, Thor. A measure of a person, of a hero, is how well they succeed at being who they are.”
It is so easy to get caught up the roles we believe we need to fill. The good daughter, the good wife, the good mother, the good entrepreneur, the good friend, etc. etc. etc.
I’m not saying those roles don’t need to be filled. They do. But, there are no set rules to how they should be filled.
I believe that the best way to fill the roles in your life is to do so with authenticity, to do them from who you are, not who you are supposed to be.
For example, Dr. Banner has been fighting his Hulk persona throughout the Avengers movies, believing that it was somehow wrong. But in Avengers: Endgame he has been fully integrated, embracing the strength of The Hulk and the intellect of Dr. Banner.
Once upon a time, I kept my geek side out of the spotlight. I tried to be all business all the time on this blog and in any professional setting. However, my geekiness is a big part of who I am and what makes me happy. I’ve learned that if people don’t like that I share my love of science fiction, fantasy, and superheroes, then they aren’t my peeps. I’ve also discovered that showing a more fully integrated self to the world actually attracts to me the people I like to work with and hang out with.
I ask you: Is there a part of you that you are afraid to embrace? Embarrassed to show? Take another look. That part of you that you deem a weakness may actually be your strength.