Weekday Wisdom Episode 56
Are you happy? Contented? Possibly even joyous? That’s what we’re going to go into a little bit in this episode of the Weekday Wisdom.
We are now at the end of this series of episodes about how well you maintain balance. Today I’m going over Question Number 16, the last question in that quiz from Episode 40:
I regularly experience well-being, contentment, even joy.
True or false?”
This is the key. Everything I’ve been talking about in the last 15 videos has been one little way that you can increase what I like to call a background noise of happiness.
Now, I’ve got a lot in my life that I could bitch, moan, and complain about. And believe me, I often do. But my background noise is happy because the one thing I truly needed in my life — which was a stable, happy, supportive, loving relationship — that’s taken care of. That and I’ve got a roof over my head. I’ve got money coming in. I don’t have to worry about bills. Really, my needs are taken care of.
And I get to share my life with my best friend and the love of my life. So of course, my background noise is happy.
Three Aspects of “Happy”
So let’s go down the list.
- Feelings of well-being: That I’m working on, still recovering from a car accident, but overall, I’m OK.
- Contentment: I am very content in my relationship, I can tell you that. I’m not some entirely content with other aspects of my life. But again, that background noise of happiness keeps it all in perspective.
- And joy: You heard me on Monday how awesome I thought my weekend was. I definitely have moments of joy.
What I’m getting at here is this: What are your basic needs? These are the things that are non-negotiable in your life in order to create this background noise of happiness. So that no matter what crap life throws you, you still feel “I’m OK.”
For example, a few years back I left my first husband and I was struggling to make ends meet. I was on food stamps. My business was sputtering and sputtering and after a while, I couldn’t even pay my rent. At one point, I was two months behind on rent. Life was so full of stress that there was no joy. There was no contentment. And there certainly wasn’t much well-being. Because I didn’t have my needs met. I didn’t have a source of income that I could depend on. I didn’t have a relationship that could hold me when I needed to be held. I didn’t have decent food. I didn’t have all my basic needs taken care of, and I was about to lose the roof over my head. That’s not the place you want to be.
Determine your bare minimum needs
Determine what your needs are, your bare minimum needs. Like I said, right now. am I making the amount of money I want to make? No. But I’m making enough.
Find out what your baseline is and work really hard to get that baseline met, because once you have that baseline met, once you’re able to have a background noise of happy, then everything else will start moving. I may not be where I want to be yet, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel … and it is not an oncoming train. It is a beckon. It is a lighthouse. And I’m moving toward it, maybe not as fast as I’d like, but I am moving toward it.
Start taking a look at each one of these questions and figure out what can you work on now, today, with baby steps to start creating your background of happiness. Because once you’ve got that, everything else starts to flow.
Don’t box yourself in. Think outside that box, because it is hemming you in.
Spread your wings and fly, fly, fly out of that box!
Because you — you, right there —
are capable of so much more than you know.
What’s Up Next?
I’ve got a treat coming up in next week’s videos. I’m going to be interviewing the author of Bare Naked Bravery. We’re going to be talking about courage.
I’m also interviewing an author who is really good at author self-promotion. We’ll talk about all these different things that you can do to promote yourself and your book.
So, I’ve got really good content that’s not just me anymore. I’m going to have guests on the Weekday Wisdom. Yay!
If you liked this video, you know the drill: Like it on YouTube. Go over there and like it on YouTube. Put a comment here on my blog, and let me know what you thought about this video or about this series of videos. And if you have questions for future videos, which can include questions of my upcoming guests, or even suggestions for future guests, I’m open to that, too, put a comment below. Let me know. Let’s make this a dialogue. Talk to me. Let me know what you think of the Weekday Wisdom, because I want it to be of value and something that you look forward to watching.
How Well Do You Maintain Balance?