4 Tips For Overcoming Life’s Most Traumatic Experiences

by | Jul 10, 2017 | Building Relationships, Mindset

If you’ve been following this blog, then you know that about a year and a half ago, I was hit by a car while crossing the street. This traumatic experience continues to have repercussions today. When I read the following guest post, I knew I had to share it for it discusses some of the key points that I’ve used to get through my experience. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have.

Art provided by Susan Mattern

4 Tips For Overcoming Life’s Most Traumatic Experiences

By Susan Mattern

Wouldn’t it be great if our most difficult days came with Hollywood-happy endings?

In the movies, when faced with the worst possible situations, our heroes rise to the occasion and find the strength they never knew they had. But those who experience real-life traumas are just as likely to end up questioning their faith in God, their family and themselves.

The scars, both physical and emotional, may never completely heal. And it can take years to find “meaning” from it all.

Even those who seem equipped to handle the worst – because of their religious beliefs or strong family and community connections – can find themselves questioning everything.

I’ve learned that there certainly are difficult lessons to learn when your life is suddenly turned upside down.

In 1986, while my husband, and our two children and I were hiking in Casper’s Wilderness Park in Orange County, California, a mountain lion grabbed my 5-year-old daughter, Laura, and disappeared. By the time she was found and rescued, Laura had been severely mauled. She survived but lost the use of her right hand and the vision in one eye. She had severe brain injuries, and her life hung in the balance for weeks.

A former nun, I struggled with guilt, anger, stress, and frustration as I fought to help my daughter recover – and to hold the county accountable when I learned the staff knew there were mountain lions in the park but hadn’t warned visitors.

In the decade after the attack, I lost my religious faith but came out of the experience with a new kind of happiness and fulfillment.

I’ve discovered these tips for those battling to come back after a life-changing trauma:

Have faith in yourself. If you don’t believe in a higher power, or if you lose your religious faith, you can find your own meaning in life. It was very difficult to give up my beliefs. But instead of a vast emptiness where God used to be, there is caring, love and friendship.

Carma’s Note: Faith in myself was key in my recovery.
However, unlike Mattern, my experience only strengthened my faith.

Have more than one focus. My primary goal was helping my daughter get well, but the family also spent years battling Orange County in court. The trial took up so much of our life, and that was a good thing in many ways. It gave us another purpose.

Carma’s Note: Not long before the accident, I got engaged.
Once the intense recovery was over, I was able to focus on my pending nuptials,
which really helped me take each day at a time.

If you can’t find courage within yourself, look to those you love. Decades after my daughter’s attack, I am still in awe of my friends; my husband, Don; and my daughter’s rescuers, doctors, and legal team. But I draw the most strength from Laura, who isn’t bitter and lives an independent and fulfilling life.

Carma’s Note: My then fiance, now husband, really stepped up to the plate
during my recovery. He’s been a rock and an anchor.
This experience helped strengthen our relationship.

Don’t expect to draw lessons from the experience right away. You may need to wait for the lessons to become apparent. It will take time and painful reflection, but it’s worth it. It would be so depressing to go through all of this, only to learn nothing and have done nothing. I realized, after years of searching, that the meaning of life was right in front of me – in my family, and the love I shared with family and friends.

Carma’s Note: Every so often, I realize something new that I’ve learned
from going through this experience. Since recovery still has a year or so to go,
I’m sure I’ll keep uncovering more!

After Laura grew into a young woman, we were looking at a book that posed the question: If you could change one day in your life, which day would it be?

I thought the choice was obvious. Laura disagreed.

“That day changed all of us, I know,” Laura told me. “But I wouldn’t have become the person I am today, and we wouldn’t have cared for each other as much as we do, or have such a wonderful family. No, I would leave that day just like it was.”

About Susan Mattern

Susan MatternSusan Mattern, author of Out of the Lion’s Den: A Little Girl’s Mountain Lion Attack, A Mother’s Search for Answers, grew up in St. Louis, Missouri, and was a nun for six years before moving to California, where she met and married her husband, Don. They have two children, David and Laura. In 1986, Laura was attacked by a mountain lion in an Orange County park, and the family spent years helping her recover and fighting the county in court.

Out of the Lion's Den by Susan MatternOut of the Lion’s Den is available on Amazon
in both paperback and Kindle formats.


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